There are certain things that men should never do. While some of these rules may be hard to follow, every man knows when they are broken.
These rules are somewhat like the golden rule; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” These rules are meant for dating and any situation where a man is sharing his personal space with someone else, whether it’s at work or in his own home.
Never look at your phone when you’re out with friends or on a date.
Not only is this rude, but the person that’s talking to you will be left feeling cold after that little glance down.
Looking away to check your phone for any reason is a big turn-off.
Even if it’s an emergency, excuse yourself and step away from the table or leave her company at that moment.
When it comes to first dates, this is something that never looks good. Try giving your full attention to the person you’re with so they know you are interested in them.
When you are out with friends, check your phone for important messages. If you are on a date, put your phone away entirely.
Never wear cologne or aftershave in excess to smell nice all day long.
Having a noticeable scent is good, but not when you smell like a walking fragrance factory. It’s great to smell nice, but it’s equally as important that everyone else around you doesn’t have to smell your cologne all day too.
If you’re going to wear cologne, apply a single spray behind your ears, a single spray in the middle of your chest, and a single spray on your neck.
This should be more than enough for anyone around you to smell you coming from about an arm’s length away.
Never eat like a pig.
There’s no need to shovel your food down like it will disappear if you don’t get it fast enough. Remember to use utensils when eating, and try not to open your mouth too wide when chewing.
You should also eat slowly so that everyone else at the table can enjoy their meal too.
Slowing down for others is a sign of respect, which is a great way to start a conversation with someone new.
Don’t chew with your mouth open or smack your lips loudly when eating. Everyone hates seeing this at their dinner table and anywhere else, for that matter!
Not only does it show a lack of manners, but it’s also really disgusting to see someone chewing loudly with their mouth open or smacking their lips together while drinking or eating. Be sure to keep your mouth closed while chewing.
Never wear a hat indoors.
Unless you’re a chef, there’s no need to wear a baseball cap or winter hat inside. This is something that looked good in the 80′s and will never be seen as acceptable again.
The only time wearing a hat indoors isn’t frowned upon is if it has religious significance to your culture.
In this case, wear it with pride! Otherwise, save the hats for the outdoors only.
Never use too many filler words like “um” and “like” when trying to make a point or tell a story.
Cut down on the filler words and focus on talking in complete sentences next time you’re with someone new.
Not only is this distracting, but it can also make you look less intelligent in front of others.
There’s no need to add extra words when you’re trying to communicate with someone, and if done repeatedly, they’ll be more than likely to zone out the next time you open your mouth.
If you do this too much and can’t think of a better way to say what you’re trying to say, it’s time for a vocabulary lesson.
These little annoying words drive people crazy; avoid them at all costs! If you want to appear more confident and sound smarter in conversation, cut down on your filler words like “um” and “like.” It will make other people think you aren’t smart if they hear these overused phrases coming out of your mouth too often.
This will make people not want to continue listening to what you have to say, even if it’s interesting. Always be confident when talking to others about anything, and avoid using any filler words when possible.
Never tell cheesy jokes that weren’t funny the first time around.
If a joke is old, don’t use it again! It doesn’t matter how funny it was 8 years ago or even 2 months ago because if people remember hearing it before, then chances are they won’t want to listen to it again.
It’s time to give up on telling those corny jokes you use because people aren’t laughing anymore.
They’ve heard them too many times before, and they know precisely what punchline is coming next.
Only use funny jokes that are original and not recycled or used in passing by someone else.
You only live once! Make the most of it by avoiding overused jokes that won’t make anyone laugh anyway.
Never talk about your accomplishments too much with a date or newfound friend.
Sharing your achievements is good, but only when the other person brings it up first.
If you continuously boast about yourself and your accomplishments, this makes others feel less important than you, which isn’t great for getting dates or making friends. Save the bragging for when someone else does it first!
If you’re out on a date with someone, they most likely want to get to know you instead of hearing about your accomplishments all night. This is something that comes across as bragging and will crush the mood almost immediately.
If you don’t share too much, you’ll gain a lot more from being humble and will have a better chance of making friends in the long run. This annoys most people when it comes out of someone’s mouth, so use it sparingly! This can be even worse if you’re bragging about what kind of car you drive or the type of apartment you live in.
Don’t share how much money you make unless someone asks for it first, and don’t talk about your expensive car or apartment until they ask to see them too. It’s always great to talk about yourself and your achievements, but it can be taken the wrong way if you constantly talk about how much money you make or what kind of car you drive.
Never make lots of noise when entering a room full of quiet people who are concentrating on their work.
If you walk into a room full of people who are all working, don’t be the man who makes oodles of noise as soon as you enter. This can easily annoy people to no end, and it’s best to do everything possible to avoid doing this in public places.
This drives most people crazy because they try to concentrate on what they are doing, not be distracted by clattering silverware.
If you need to eat something, take the time to go down to a cafe or somewhere else. Don’t make a ton of noise when you eat in the library or at the office if everyone else is trying to work.
This will get on most people’s nerves, and it’s best to avoid disturbing others when possible.
Never over-apologize.
There’s no need to apologize for everything you do. Over-apologizing makes people think less of you because when someone feels bad for you all the time, it makes them believe you are a fragile guy.
If this happens, people will view you as a weak and hysterical individual rather than a strong and capable one. When you apologize too much, people will start to get annoyed or frustrated with your behavior.
This bad habit will drive people away from you, not bring them closer or keep them interested in what you have to say!
The most you need to offer is an apology, not over-apologizing for everything that goes wrong or comes up. You don’t want to come across as a nervous wreck with nothing going on in your life!
Never complain too much about things that aren’t a big deal.
No one likes to hear a man complain about everything and whine all the time. When you constantly complain, people will get tired of listening or trying to understand what you’re going through.
If something bothers you so much, it’s best not to let other people know. They’ll get tired of hearing the same stuff over and over again, and it will be a turn-off for them.
This is something that’s best to keep in your head or talk to family members about since no one else wants to hear about why you’re upset.
If you let out all your pent-up frustration, you could end up making other people uncomfortable and leave them asking themselves why they even care about what’s bothering you.
Don’t complain too much since most things aren’t as bad as they seem to be at the moment. Don’t talk about the problem if it’s not that important or serious either. You can end up losing friends faster than you can say, ‘my bad!’
Conclusion.
Following this article, you’ll be able to avoid making mistakes that can turn people off. If something was mentioned here that you didn’t realize all the time, then there is nothing wrong with that because everyone makes mistakes!
You can always learn from your past mishaps and not let them happen again, though. Remember, there are some things you should never do if you want people to think well of you.
What other things should men never do? Share your ideas in the comment section below.
Matthew Mansour is a professional life coach, fitness trainer, health coach, a blogger with over 800 articles published to date. He enjoys reading and researching books that are reflective of the nature of who we are as humans, understanding the complexity of our minds, and using it as an advantage to propel us forward in life.
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