Guys, we know you don’t always get it right. We also know that sometimes you can be a little clueless about making girls happy. This is why we’ve compiled this list of 10 things guys do that girls don’t like (and what to do instead!)
Not paying attention to us.
It’s frustrating when we’re trying to have a conversation with you, and you’re not paying attention. This makes us feel like you don’t care about what we say.
We know that guys are often distracted by other things, but try to make a conscious effort to focus on us when we’re talking.
When you’re not paying attention, it makes us feel like we’re boring you. This can lead to relationship issues down the road because no one wants a boyfriend who doesn’t care about them.
Not only is it rude, but it makes us feel like we’re not worth your time. This can make us lose interest in talking to you altogether.
What to do instead:
Make a point to focus on us when we’re talking, even if you’re not interested in the conversation.
If you don’t like what we’re talking about, ask us to change the subject.
It’s okay if it takes a few extra minutes to pay attention to us, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. We’ll feel appreciated, and you’ll likely learn more about us in the process. If we know that our words aren’t falling on deaf ears, it’ll be easier to feel like you’re worth our time.
It’s also essential that we know when you are interested in the conversation. If you’re not, let us know! We don’t want to talk if you’re not engaged in the conversation.
Make sure you’re giving us your undivided attention when we’re talking to you. Put away your phone, turn off the TV, and give us your complete focus. If you can’t do that, let us know so we can talk later when you can pay attention.
We want to feel important and unique, so make sure we know that by giving us your undivided attention when we need it.
Expecting us to be psychic.
We’re not mind-readers, so stop expecting us to know what you’re thinking. If you want something, tell us!
Just because we like you and want to make you happy doesn’t mean we’ll know what it is.
When you expect us to read your mind, it makes us feel like we’re not good enough. This makes us less likely to try to make you happy. It is also frustrating when we can’t figure out what you want.
What to do instead:
Communication is vital in any relationship, so ensure you’re vocal about your wants and needs. If you don’t tell us what you want, we can’t give it to you!
Just be clear about what you need, and we’ll do our best to accommodate. This is especially important in the early stages of a relationship when trying to figure each other out. Once we know what you like and don’t like, it’ll be a lot easier to make you happy.
Being insensitive.
It hurts our feelings when you say or do something insensitive to us. We’re not always going to be on the same page, but try to be sensitive.
When you act insensitively towards us, it makes us feel like our feelings don’t matter. This can make us wonder why we’re even in a relationship if you don’t care about what’s important to us. We want a boyfriend who will listen to and respect our opinions and beliefs no matter how much they may differ from yours.
Don’t get offended when we ask for your support or understanding because this is an incredibly important part of any healthy relationship! It’ll help ensure that both people are happy with their actions towards one another, so everyone feels respected throughout the process.
What to do instead:
Let us know when you disagree with our opinions, and be respectful. If you don’t agree with something we’ve said, try not to attack us.
Instead, let us know that you disagree and why. This will help us understand where you’re coming from and could potentially lead to a productive conversation about the topic at hand.
It’s also vital to support our decisions – even if you disagree with them. If we tell you that we’re doing something and it doesn’t sit well with you, try not to react negatively.
We need your support to make decisions that we feel good about, so be there for us when we need it most. Acting insensitively towards us will only push us away, so please try to avoid it at all costs.
It’s not always easy to be sensitive, but it’s imperative in any relationship. If you can’t seem to get it right, then please ask us for help! We want to make sure you understand how we’re feeling and why your actions are hurting us.
Being insensitive is one of the biggest turn-offs for girls, so try your best to avoid it!
Ignoring our texts or calls.
We know that you’re busy, and sometimes you might not be able to answer our texts or calls right away, but ignoring them altogether is a big no-no. It makes us feel like we’re not important to you and that you’d rather be doing something else than talking to us.
When you ignore our texts or calls, it feels like we’re not a priority in your life. It also makes us feel like we can’t rely on you to be there for us when we need you.
What to do instead:
If you can’t answer our text or call right away, try to let us know as soon as possible. If you can’t answer, then at least send us a text message telling us that you’re busy, and we will get back to us as soon as possible.
It’s important to let us know that we’re still important to you, even when you’re busy. We don’t expect you to always have time for us, but we hope you make us a priority when you have time.
We know that you’re not always going to be in the mood to talk, but please try not to ignore us when we contact you. It makes us feel like we’re not wanted and that you’d rather be without us.
Being too possessive.
It’s flattering when you’re possessive of us, but sometimes it can go a little too far. We want to know that you care about us and are invested in the relationship, but don’t cross the line.
When you’re too possessive, it makes us feel like we’re a possession instead of a person. We want to be with a guy who loves and respects us, not someone who views us as objects they can control. This can often lead to us feeling disrespected and afraid of our relationship.
If you care about someone, you shouldn’t want them to feel like they’re being controlled or manipulated in any way. If we tell you that something is making us uncomfortable, please respect what we have to say instead of turning it around on us so your feelings don’t get hurt.
What to do instead:
Try to find a balance between being caring and being possessive.
If you’re too possessive, it will scare us away, and we’ll start to resent you for treating us like property. If you aren’t loving and attentive enough, we’ll feel unimportant and neglected in the relationship.
It’s crucial to find a healthy balance between the two, so we always feel loved and respected in your company. If you’re worried that you might be crossing the line, just ask us how we’re feeling! We’ll be more than happy to tell you if we think you’re being too possessive.
Respect is key in any healthy relationship, and it’s something that guys seem to struggle with the most. We want a man who will be there for us no matter what, but we also need you to respect us as individuals.
Try your best not to take things personally when we tell you how we feel because our feelings are important – just like yours are. We understand that it might be challenging to change your ways, but with time and patience, we’re sure you’ll be able to get it right!
Being disrespectful is one of the biggest things girls can’t stand in a guy, so please try to avoid doing anything that could make us feel disrespected.
Talking about other girls in front of us.
Talking about other girls is something that guys seem to do all the time, even when they’re in a relationship. It’s disrespectful, making us feel like we’re not good enough for you.
When you talk about other girls in front of us, it makes us feel like we’re replaceable and that you don’t think our relationship is important. It also makes us feel insecure about ourselves and our place in your life.
What to do instead:
If you need to talk about another girl, try to do it when we’re not around. If that’s not possible, make sure that you’re respectful towards her and don’t say anything bad about her. We want to know that you respect the women in your life – even if they aren’t in a relationship with you.
It might be difficult to change the way you talk about other girls, but it’s essential if you want to make your relationship with us work. We’re not asking you to stop talking about other girls altogether; just try to be more respectful when you do.
We know that guys can be competitive by nature, but there’s no need to compare us to other girls. We want to be seen by you as an individual and not just another obstacle in the way of your next conquest.
Making us feel jealous.
Jealousy is one of the most destructive emotions that exists, and it’s something that guys seem to struggle with a lot. We don’t want you to make us feel jealous by talking to other girls or paying attention to them in a way that makes us feel like we’re not good enough.
When you make us feel jealous, it’s like you’re doing it on purpose and trying to tear us down. It also makes us doubt our relationship and whether or not we’re important to you.
What to do instead:
If you want to talk to another girl, just speak to her. There’s no need for you to make us feel jealous by flirting with her or giving her too much attention. We understand that you might be attracted to other girls, but that doesn’t mean you have to act on those feelings.
We understand that guys can be flirty by nature, but there’s no need to make us feel jealous or left out. It’s important to make us feel secure in our relationship and not like we’re always competing for your attention.
We know that you might not mean to make us feel jealous, but it’s something that you need to watch out for. It’s important to remember that we don’t want to feel insecure in our relationship, so stop making us jealous if you care about us.
Jumping to conclusions.
We know that you’re good at reading people, but sometimes your intuition can lead you astray. When you jump to conclusions, it often causes a lot of drama and unnecessary fights.
When you jump to conclusions, it’s like you’re not even willing to listen to our explanation or give us the benefit of the doubt. It also makes us feel like we can’t trust you and that you don’t believe that we’re capable of telling the truth.
We might not always be sure about what we want or where our lives are going, so please don’t jump to negative assumptions when you notice something different about us.
What to do instead:
Don’t jump to conclusions so quickly, and give us a chance to explain ourselves first before you react. When you don’t listen, it makes us feel like our opinions or feelings don’t matter at all and that you can always brush them aside whenever it suits your needs.
We understand that you’re often just trying to help, but please try not to be so quick to judge us. We know that we can make mistakes sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that we deserve to have our character questioned by you.
It’s vital for us to feel like we can trust you, and jumping to conclusions is one of the quickest ways to lose our trust.
Making us feel guilty.
Guilt is a complicated emotion, and it’s one that you don’t always realize how much power it has over your partner. When you make us feel guilty, it’s like you’re using our emotions against us and trying to get what you want.
It often feels like you don’t care about how we feel and that your only concern is yourself. Doing this makes us lose respect for you and further destroys any trust that we might have had in the relationship.
What to do instead:
If you want something from us, then just ask for it directly instead of making us feel guilty. We would much rather hear what it is that you want than have to guess based on how you’re acting.
We understand that sometimes guys can be confused when it comes to communication, but please try not to use guilt as a weapon against us. We might get mad at you sometimes, but we will always respect the person who doesn’t make us feel bad about our feelings or decisions.
Guilt is a powerful tool and one of the quickest ways to destroy trust in any relationship. Don’t use it on your partner if you care about them because they won’t appreciate it very much!
Overreacting.
It’s normal for guys to have a short temper, but sometimes you can take it too far. When you overreact, it often leads to bigger arguments or fights than need be.
You might not realize how sensitive we are, but the smallest things can set you off sometimes and cause us more harm than good. When you overreact, it makes us feel like our feelings don’t matter at all and that your only concern is yourself!
What to do instead:
Please try to stay calm in every situation because this will help prevent any big misunderstandings between us. We know that you’re often just trying to protect us, but you must remember that we have feelings too.
When you overreact, it not only hurts us emotionally but also damages our trust in you. We want to feel safe and secure in our relationship, but right now, it feels like you’re always on edge and ready to lash out.
Remember that our feelings matter too, and everyone deserves a chance to express them without being judged or punished by someone else!
Conclusion.
We hope these tips are helpful for all guys out there who want their partners to understand them truly!
If you have more things that girls don’t like, please leave a comment below with your insight so others can read what drives people apart instead of bringing them together!
Joanna Perez is a Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Practitioner, a passionate blogger, writer, traveler, wife, and mother of one boy. Joanna loves to share her thoughts on parenting, health, wellness, and lifestyle.
She is a Certified Women Empowerment Life Coach and has done courses on Life Mastery, Happiness, Health, and Success. She also has studied Neuroscience for Parents and took the Skilled Helper Training Course.
She believes in helping people become the best version of themselves and strives to provide quality informative and inspiring content. She loves animals, especially her two cats, and can often be found taking photos of them as they pose for the camera.