Many men have a hard time being happy with themselves. They may not be satisfied in their relationships, do not make enough money, or try something new.
For some people, the solution is as simple as changing their hair color or buying a new pair of shoes. But what if you want more? What if you are looking for an entirely different life?
In this blog post, we will talk about 10 secrets to re-invent yourself and find happiness!
Get rid of all the clutter in your house — old clothes, books, etc.
If you don’t use it, get rid of it. Getting rid of clutter will help you become a new you!
Often, men keep things because they are attached to them or think they might go back to using something one day. If this is the case, consider donating the items and getting a clearer mind!
You can also sell some clothes on websites like Poshmark or eBay. Getting rid of old clothes and books is a great way to start this process.
By getting rid of the things you do not need, you will find it easier to get out of your comfort zone without being surrounded by reminders from your past.
Clutter can be very distracting and only cause negative feelings in yourself and others around you!
Doing something like purging all that clutter makes room for new things in life. Besides, we’re pretty sure we’ve seen every episode of “Friends” at least 30 times each, so there’s no point holding onto those DVDs anymore… right?
Clutter can be described as anything that is taking up space in your life.
Old clothes, books you haven’t read, or toys collecting dust can all be considered clutter.
If they aren’t helping you achieve your goals – get rid of them! It might seem like a small step, but it will help bring happiness to new levels!
Get a new wardrobe.
Start dressing differently. Maybe you can’t afford a whole new wardrobe right now, but that doesn’t mean you must dress the same. Shop for some items at thrift stores or places like Target or Ross.
It is also possible to find high-quality items at these stores too, so don’t be afraid of shopping there. Getting a new style could also be as easy as shopping in your closet—maybe there’s something hidden deep down there. Give everything another chance! You’d be surprised at how much money men spend on fashion by just neglecting what they already own.
If money is not a problem, feel free to shop for some new clothes! This is not the same as shopping because you are bored. Instead, this will be a way of making yourself happy and excited about your wardrobe again!
Add more color to your life.
Start dressing differently by adding more color to your life, wearing different shoes, or even changing your hairstyle. A new wardrobe can be an easy way to re-invent yourself! You can try out different styles and see what makes you most excited.
If you are looking for some inspiration, check out Pinterest – there are plenty of boards dedicated to the perfect looks and outfits. You can also look at our styling section, where we share tips and tricks about grooming, accessories, and fashion.
Try something from the other side of the spectrum for a change. Maybe you’ve been wearing the same clothes for years, and now is a great time to update your look!
It’s okay if it takes some time – remember that dressing differently will change how others see you. It can also help boost confidence in yourself because you take steps into something new that might be out of character.
You don’t have to buy an entire wardrobe complete with matching shoes, watches, belts, shirts, etc… Just take baby steps toward getting more confident about yourself! Maybe start by buying one piece each week until, eventually, there’ll be nothing left but colorful outfits hanging up inside your closet.
Start eating healthier foods and exercising more often.
It’s hard to feel confident when we’re feeling unattractive and unhealthy.
Exercising is an excellent way of releasing all the stress you have built up inside, and it can also help boost your self-esteem!
This leads us to eat healthier foods, which, in turn, will make us look better too. You don’t need to go on some crazy diet or workout routine—start small, maybe by cutting out the soda or changing the amount of sugar in your cup of coffee.
It might seem like nothing, but once you get started, healthy choices become easier than before!
This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to eat perfectly 100% of the time either; there are ways around this problem, such as allowing yourself cheat days where anything goes (within reason, obviously).
Find ways to feel healthier without feeling deprived! It’s all about making minor changes that will help you in the long run.
Doing this will get you re-energized, happier, and ready to take on the world!
Take some time to do something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the chance.
If you want to start something new, don’t wait for someone else to give it the go-ahead – just do it!
You never know where your life will take you if you decide not to keep reaching for that next dream. You might find yourself getting stuck in a rut and wasting away all of your time trying to please others instead of doing what makes YOU happy.
It’s okay to say no every once in a while, too, because this is part of taking care of yourself. It doesn’t mean that people won’t miss out on spending some time with you, but sometimes we need some “me” time!
It could be something as simple as going to a movie or taking a walk around the park. There are plenty of things you can do that help bring back the excitement in your life!
Maybe there is some hobby you have always wanted to try out? Perhaps you’ve been dying for a chance to take drawing classes, and now would be a great time to sign up finally?
Whatever it may be, start making plans today to do what makes you happy!
Seek out new opportunities, even if they seem difficult at first.
Change your mindset about what you can and cannot do. Many of us don’t even try to seek new opportunities because we’re afraid it will be too challenging. We might think, “I’m not smart enough,” or “that’s just not my thing.” But the truth is, you never know what can happen until you at least give it a shot!
What if your life took an unexpected turn and something happened where this goal became more effortless than before? You’ll kick yourself for having missed out on all of those great experiences. It doesn’t have to be anything significant – maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to learn but didn’t think would be possible. Well, now would be a great time to go out and find a class to take!
Maybe you’re trying to build up the courage to ask for that promotion at work. Or perhaps you want to challenge yourself and start running marathons? Whether it’s big or small, just go for it!
Whatever it may be, life is too short, and we should all try our best to do as many different things as possible!
You never know what might happen when you take that first step.
If learning something new seems complicated at first, just think about how incredible it will feel once you finally accomplish that goal. It’s always better than living your life wishing you had tried something new!
Take some time to think about where your life is now, and then ask yourself if there are any changes you want to make to feel more confident about yourself. Once you know what you want, it’s time to start taking charge and getting things done!
Take some time and figure out your next steps – write down a list of changes you need to make for this transformation process to begin. Remember, there is no ‘perfect’ formula, so do whatever works best for your unique situation! Once you get started, you’ll see how much easier it is to make these changes than before!
It can be scary at first, but once you start taking those risks, you’ll feel re-energized and ready for whatever life throws your way.
Grabbing life by the horns!
Don’t wait for opportunities to come knocking on your door – just go out there and grab them by the horns!
Grabbing life by the horns is an excellent way of pushing yourself forward. Once you’ve done something that’s been on your mind, it’ll give you confidence in other areas as well. It can even help boost feelings about who you are because now you know what kind of man (or animal?) that would be if we were talking zoology…
The best thing about grabbing life by the horns? You never know where it might lead next, which means surprises will always keep coming your way! This could include things like traveling around the world or learning how to play an instrument. Just make sure you’re having fun and doing things that bring back the excitement in your life.
Do something that scares you.
It may seem daunting at first, but pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone is one of the best things you can do for your confidence.
What’s that saying? “Anything worth doing is going to be a little scary,” and that couldn’t ring more true! If you’re feeling nervous about anything in life right now, just remember this quote because chances are whatever makes you uncomfortable will end up being an enriching experience. You won’t regret taking those risks when all is said and done.
One of the best ways to take yourself out of your comfort zone is by doing something that scares you – like taking a public speaking class or signing up for an extreme outdoor adventure.
Once you take those risks, not only will it open doors in your career and personal life, but it will also boost your confidence because you’ll realize how capable (and brave!) you really are!
What if I’m not a risk-taker?
If you’re not into taking risks that involve putting your safety in jeopardy, there are still plenty of other options to choose from. Anything out of the norm is going to be outside of your comfort zone and can make you feel uneasy at first.
- Trying something new on social media
- Telling someone how much they mean to you (in person!)
- Asking for a raise or promotion at work
- Picking up and moving to a different city
You get the idea! If you’re feeling stuck in one place right now, just remember that life is short, and time moves incredibly fast. You never know when your next big opportunity will come along, so don’t be afraid to jump into something new — even if it’s outside your comfort zone.
So let go of those fears and jump right into the unknown – you’ll be happily surprised at what happens next!
Get Rid of Toxic People in your Life.
We all know the adverse effects that a bad friend can have on our lives, but there’s also the danger of toxic coworkers, bosses, and even family members.
These people can depress you to the point where it’s difficult to get out of bed in the morning—but this isn’t a sign that YOU need to be fixed; rather, they’re just not healthy influences in your life!
They may be very skilled at convincing you that everything is your fault or getting mad when things don’t go their way, but these kinds of behaviors are super draining and take up far too much time than we think.
So, how do we rid ourselves of such negativity?
First: Set boundaries with them which mean no longer letting them call/text/email you whenever they feel like it because chances are there will never be “a good time” for them.
Second: Once you’ve set your boundaries, stick to them no matter what!
Even if they try to make things difficult for you or play the victim card – don’t give in and walk away, knowing that everything will eventually get better. Trust me on this one – I know it’s hard but taking care of yourself is far more important than giving in to their bad behavior.
And finally: Remember that the only person you can control is yourself!
So focus on your needs and ignore what anyone else tells/does to you because, in the end, it’s up to YOU how you choose to act or respond. After all, there will always be people who try their hardest to get under your skin; but might I remind you that they’re not worth it, so just let them go already!
What if I don’t know which toxic relationships are causing me pain?
It can sometimes be tricky figuring out whether someone has crossed over into “toxic” territory with us.
However, here are some helpful signs:
- They constantly put down everything about your life choices (your career choice, where you live etc.) Even though you’re both successful in your own ways, they try to make you feel like everything is “less than” and not good enough.
- They take advantage of your kindness and generosity by borrowing money or asking for a place to stay without ever giving back. Just because we care about them doesn’t mean we should enable their bad behavior! They manipulate you to do things you don’t want to do.
- They constantly compare us with others – especially if it’s always followed up with negative remarks (i.e., “Why can’t you be more like him?”). We all have unique qualities special to the US, so this type of comment only makes us feel insecure, eventually leading to feeling inadequate. And nobody wants that!
These behaviors don’t just affect us personally; they can affect our work and professional lives as well. So if you feel like someone in your life is trying to bring you down, then it’s time for YOU to take back control of YOUR happiness!
So who do we need to cut out from our lives?
I know this sounds harsh, but sometimes we can only truly move forward by letting go of those toxic people holding us back. If certain family members or friends constantly make negative comments about everything going on in your life, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell them how much their words hurt!
It might not always be easy telling these types of people off, which means having difficult conversations may become necessary. And if that doesn’t work? Then it might be time to re-evaluate the relationship you have with them.
And finally, sometimes we need to cut them out entirely because they’ve crossed a line where nothing else seems to work anymore. They don’t respect your boundaries and will continue pushing limits until YOU set them!
Remember – whatever happens next is YOUR CHOICE, so make sure you follow through on what’s best for YOU to move forward without any regrets or doubts about what could have been!
In today’s social media-obsessed world, it can seem nearly impossible to get rid of someone who is no longer adding anything positive to your life. After all, you went through so much together and shared some pretty great memories!
However, if this person isn’t making you happy anymore or healthily influencing you, then they’re just weighing you down at this point.
Let them go!
Instead of thinking about what could’ve been or wishing things were different between the two of you – let them go because, ultimately, it will make both parties happier when everyone starts living their own lives again.
It’s also important to understand that if someone wants out of your life, it is their decision and has nothing to do with you! So don’t be afraid or ashamed about making the first move because at least now, this person will finally see how much happier (and lighter) you are without them in your day-to-day lives.
Make a bucket list and start checking things off.
Making a bucket list is a great way to get excited about the future and plan for all of your big dreams.
There are a few reasons why creating a bucket list is the perfect way to re-invent yourself.
- First of all, you’ll be able to dream big without limitations or rules, which means anything from world domination and becoming an astronaut to learning how to play guitar can become part of your long-term goals!
- Secondly, it’s important not only for our mental health but also for our physical well-being as well. You see, by making a hard copy (or even just writing down some ideas), we’re forced to take action because otherwise, there wouldn’t be any proof that these things ever existed in the first place since they exist mainly inside our heads!
- And finally? Bucket lists help us stay motivated when something seems too complicated or overwhelming. For example, if you want to travel the world but don’t know where to start? Then make a list of all of your favorite places and get yourself there one at a time.
This way, it won’t seem too daunting or overwhelming anymore because once we break our bucket lists down into smaller pieces, they become much more manageable!
How to actually get started with this fun activity?
Just ask yourself some simple questions like:
What do I really wish could happen in my life someday soon? What am I afraid of doing even though part of me wants to try anyway? Who have been the most influential figures in my past so far, and what can I learn from them about being happy right now instead of waiting for everything to be perfect before taking action?
If you’re struggling with figuring out precisely what you’d like to do in life, then don’t worry! There’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to making one – instead, just write down everything that pops into your head, even if it seems crazy or impossible at first.
And once we start checking things off our bucket lists doesn’t mean we need to stop dreaming up new adventures because this might be an ever-changing process as well! So feel free to add more items whenever any exciting opportunities pop up, so there’s always something fresh on the horizon waiting for us!
Plan a trip to take your mind off of things.
One of the best ways to escape a negative mindset is by booking yourself an adventure trip – preferably somewhere you’ve never been before!
First of all, traveling (especially on your own) can be one of life’s greatest pleasures.
And secondly? It has almost magical healing abilities since it allows us to get out there and see how other men live their lives while also teaching us about things we might not have learned yet in school or through our day-to-day routines.
So if anything seems overwhelming right now, then consider taking some time off work and getting out of your comfort zone.
And finally, don’t worry about planning every detail because that’s not the point here – instead, just try and get yourself into a “go with the flow” type mindset where you allow whatever happens to happen!
This way, even if something goes wrong or doesn’t turn out as expected, it won’t be such a big deal anymore because you’ll have more important things to focus on, like meeting new people and taking in all of the exciting sights. And if something perfect does happen? Then that’s just a bonus!
Where should you visit first?
There are so many possibilities out there – it depends on what kind of traveler you are and how much time you have available. Some places might take a more extended period of planning than others, depending on your circumstances. So ask yourself these questions instead:
Which places do I dream of visiting right now? How can I combine traveling with that other thing on my bucket list (like doing yoga or volunteering) so it doesn’t feel like such a burden anymore?
If you’re still struggling to figure out what destination might be best for your first solo adventure trip, then don’t panic! There’s no need to rush into anything just yet – instead, try and take stock of where you are in life currently as well as how much free time is available.
For example, if you’re a student with no job, then your bucket list might be much longer than someone who has already graduated from college and is entering the workforce soon.
And finally? Remember that this is your journey, so you can go wherever you want and do whatever it takes to make yourself feel happy again!
Find out who you are.
The best way to do this? Make a list of all the things you love doing, and then figure out how to turn them into a full-time career!
And if that’s something we’re still struggling with, here are some suggestions:
Look back at your past and think about what made you happy in school (or even before). Is there any chance those activities could make for an exciting side business or hobby instead? If not, then perhaps it might be worth brainstorming some other possibilities.
Get creative when thinking up new ways to earn money – especially when looking online, where almost anything is possible nowadays (and often much more accessible than expected)!
Check out local opportunities around you that might help lead the way to a brand-new future.
For example, what about local courses or workshops out there? Or even meetup groups dedicated to helping people with similar interests get together and share their experiences over a cup of coffee (or tea)?
In other words, don’t be afraid to make an effort whenever something exciting pops up, because this is how we all grow as individuals! So keep exploring your options until you find something perfect for your current situation – even if it takes time.
And finally… Everyone will have different opinions on what re-inventing yourself means, so why not ask those closest to us instead? This way, we can discover more about who we really are deep down inside before deciding how we might want to go about changing our lives for the better.
Don’t miss out on this opportunity to change your life for the better! Start reinventing yourself today, which will help bring excitement back into your life like never before.
Find ways of getting fit without feeling deprived or buying clothes that make you look great instead of hanging up outfits inside your closet collecting dust… take baby steps towards changing who you are so others can see it too.
To re-invent yourself, you have to be willing to take some risks in your life. Some of these changes may be scary, but it’s worth trying something new!
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Marcella Raskin is a passionate and articulate writer who has dedicated her life to studying human potential. She has studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Life Purpose Coaching, Group Life Coaching. She loves helping women (and men) explore themselves through writing, which allows for an exploration into one’s thoughts on entrepreneurship or personal development topics such as mindset-shaping techniques that can positively shape someone’s perspectives about themselves when they don’t think it could ever happen! She practices sports and has studied Exercise Physiology. She is married and the mother of two girls.